Ministry – a vast subject. And the focus of our love searching today.
Is the first thing that enters your mind that of a tug-of-war? That’s what comes to my mind when I think of this subject. On one end of the rope, I see a super star mom/wife version of myself who always has clean clothes (and they are folded), Potty Barn decor and serves, from scratch, home cooked meals (3 meals a day x 7 days – that’s 21 meals a week-Yikes) to the neglect of all the people beyond the four walls of my home. On the other end, I see this frazzled, crazy version of myself delivering homemade casseroles to every sick family in church while my own kids eat microwaved corn dogs off paper plates.
Where is the balance? That is your question and mine too!!! But the truth is, this isn’t really an outward question. It’s not a logical, “what does your schedule look like?” kind of question. It’s an emotional and spiritual question, often laden with guilt, presumed ideas from society, and preferences. A heart question. And as we all know, our schedules can look ship-shape while our hearts are in turmoil.
How do we merge these two worlds? Maybe ministering inside and outside the home aren’t on two different ends of a rope after all. Maybe, in God’s perfect design, they actually work together to make us better at both.
Titus 2:4 & 5 gives us a clear view of our role in the home. The older women are given the responsibility of teaching the younger wife and mother the duties of the home.
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children. To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Clearly, God is passionate about the home. So passionate, in fact, that one of the chief ways He wants women to minister is to create a calm, loving home for both her husband and children. But I also believe that as we embrace God’s calling to serve inside our home, we become servants to reach those outside the home! Angels among us!
Beyond the Home Next
Meeting the needs of our own family allows our eyes to be tender to reach those beyond our 4 walls. Have you helped an angel lately? You never know. In Hebrews 13:2 we are told that angels are among us.
Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
When was the last time you gave an angel a warm hat and gloves? Forfeited your Starbucks for the man on the corner on a cold day? Smiled at the rumpled little girl in the line at the library? Put your arms around a sister in church who has had a rough week?
Clearly God has called us to both the home and those outside of it. That can only mean these two mandates are not at odds with one another but rather work together to make us the women He wants us to be. Forget tug-of-war.
Instead, picture a bicycle with two pedals pumping in unison. One propels the other forward, and vice versa. It’s the only way the bike can balance. And remember we have little eyes watching us. To prepare our kids to become Kingdom citizens, and learn to look beyond themselves, we need to give them real world experience in serving others.
Now please excuse me while I whip up two yummy casseroles – one for us and one for the new mom down the block. We can do this !!!!!!