Fragile Life

I lost a cousin this week.

But she was so much more than a cousin. When my sister and I talked early this morning and remembered our childhood, there aren’t too many memories that didn’t include this cousin. Every Christmas and many other holidays included her and her family. My dad and her dad were brothers. For many years we lived right next door. They had a pool and us kids, most summer days, could be found there sometime during the day. My uncle (her dad) has been gone for many, many years. Her 3 sisters moved out west and she was the only sibling left in Indiana. So she adopted my dad as her dad. And our family as her family. The last few years of my dad’s life my cousin and her husband were weekly visitors with milk shakes, magazines, flowers, and welcome conversation. They brought board games, to the delight of my dad, and had hours of fun.

She had been sick for a few weeks but we didn’t know that her last precious days were numbered.

Then I got to thinking…………..days are numbered.

Aren’t all our days numbered? The Bible says they are in Psalms 90:12 ESV

So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.

Some of us may have a lot of days left in our bank but some others may be close to using their number of days up. My bank has a low balance alert that you can sign up for. If your checking balance falls below a certain number they send you an alert to transfer money from your savings to your checking account. But, sadly, life doesn’t work that way. There is no alert when funds (days) are running low. No account to transfer more days from. 

So I need to make each day count !!! Now, I don’t mean that I have to do all the things on my bucket list at a frenzied pace. But, I need to live in the present – fully and with joy. I’ve been so guilty at times of regretting the past – and working it over in  my mind. If I had done this – this would have happened. But those days are PAST and can’t be replaced. Or trying to figured out the future and all the scenarios that could happen so I’d be prepared. But do you know what ? So many of those things just don’t happen. 

So how can I value each day? 

First, I think it starts by giving each day over to the Lord. 

This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24 KJV

When I start the day talking to God I realize that my day, the good, the bad, and all in between, belongs to Him. He knows the day before me and is able to keep me in His care no matter what happens.

Then, to value the day I need to focus on that day. Not yesterday or tomorrow. Feel the warm sunshine, smell the fragrant roses planted at the end of the driveway, rejoice in a call from my daughter, enjoy the sweet touch of my husband as he goes past me in my chair, savor the meal in the crock pot, and on and on. My mom used to say, “Don’t borrow trouble from tomorrow.”


I need to count my blessings. Tom and I have a warm and cozy house to live in. The pantry is full. We are close to family. Our new church has been a source of some wonderful new friends. We are busy, content in the things we are trying to do. Both of us are fairly healthy. Sooo many things are on the positive side that I have nothing to complain about. 

Finally, in numbering my days I need to cherish the fact that the One who holds the number of my days is the One who can go with me always. 

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6b NIV

God can redeem my past from my mistakes. He will walk with me in the future. So starting today I’m going to make my days count. Count for joy, contentment, love, fulfillment, happiness, and appreciation in the moment.

I pray that I can make each of my numbered days count !!!

How about you – how can you value the number of your days? 










36 thoughts on “Fragile Life

    1. Thank you so much for your comment, Lux. I know God always shows us wisdom in every situation if we are just listening. Thanks for visiting. Blessings.

  1. I cherish the days by purposefully being in the moment. I once had a problem with my dreaded to-do list controlling my days. I still make the list but allow for it to be thrown out the window when opportunities arise. Just this morning I threw it out the window to have coffee with a friend. Cherished Days…Cherished Moments

    1. Sheryl, you have learned a wonderful attitude !!! One of the lessons I learned through this is to live in the moment, too. To-do lists will always be there (and I’m a list maker too) but those cherished moments pass and might never be again. Thanks so much for stopping by and your insightful comment.

  2. Rebecca, I appreciate your rich wisdom about time (learned through losses, I’m sorry) and the Bible verses you’ve shared. Thanks for the blessings. Visiting you from Holly Gerth’s.

    1. Sandraj, I’m so glad you stopped by with your sweet words. And the Lord does teach us wisdom everyday if we slow down and listen. Blessings.

  3. I am so sorry for your loss. I am very, very close to my cousin and I couldn’t imagine my days without her. You have picked some great scripture passages and in answer to your question, I try to live as the bible says, live one day at a time, live in the moment (not the exact verse). Tim McGraw’s song Live Like You Were Dying, sums it up for me. Make the most of each day we are given.

    1. Thanks, Michelle for your sweet comments. You are wise to live each day to the fullest. I’ve heard Tim McGraw’s song too and I think it really fits. Thanks for sharing. Blessings.

  4. 2014 was a huge lesson for me. I lost 3 grandparents and an uncle. One good thing that came out of it, though, is I no longer put my goals and dreams on hold. What exactly are we waiting for? The time to live is now!

    1. Sometimes lessons are really hard to learn, Stephanie. I’m so sorry for your losses.And I agree that we should live in the today. Use that good china, wear that beautiful dress, take that day off, take time to sit on the deck with your husband. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

  5. I am so sorry for your loss, Rebecca. I find meaning in my days by working toward my dreams and by spending time with the people I love. I no longer put off the things that are important to me for the things that aren’t.

    1. Thank you, Kara for your sweet comment and you are very wise to live in the moment. Tomorrow isn’t promised. Appreciate you stopping by. Blessings.

  6. Dear Rebecca, I sorry about your loss. You reflection made me recount how unpredictable life is.
    Add value each day and live to the fullest, rest in the Lord.
    God Bless and encourage your family.

  7. Hi there. I am so sorry for your loss. However, I do think it is wonderful that you were able to take away a very beautiful message through all of this. Thank you for sharing your thought-provoking post with us at the Merry Monday link party. I hope to see you again next week.

    1. Ashley, I always enjoy the Merry Monday Link Up and will be back next week. I appreciate your sweet words. God said “that all things work for our good” not that all things are good – but work for our good. Thanks for stopping by.

      1. What a touching tribute to your cousin! Losing a dear one does give a new perspective on how fragile our life is. This is a good reminder to live in the moment and to focus on what is important.

        1. Thank you , Charissa for visiting and your sweet comments. When we are living our life each day, busy and just doing what we need to, it is hard to realize that it passes so quickly. I want to value each day more than ever. Blessings.

  8. God has been speaking to my heart lately that every day is a gift! We are not promised tomorrow — may we devote each day to Him and let Him use us to accomplish His perfect will. So sorry to hear of your loss — may God give you the peace that passes all understanding. Linked up with you at Faith and Fellowship — hope you’ll stop by Saved by Grace for a visit!
    God bless,

    1. Laurie, God has been speaking to me the same thing. We get too busy sometimes and God has to softly whisper to us what is really important. Blessings.

  9. Rebecca, thanks for bringing your sweet positive words to Fridays #BlogBoosterParty. This is the attitude of living today, is what I have been learning, I should say re-learning. Thanks for your wisdom, sorry for the loss of your cousin.

    1. I have been re-learning it too, Kathleen. You try to focus on really living and life gets in the way. That’s when I have to stop and refocus on what is really important, again. Thanks for your sweet words and I will see you again on the Fridays #BlogBoosterParty. Blessings.

  10. I’m so sorry for your loss. What precious memories you must have and what a great lesson that you’ve shared. So blessed that you linked up with me at #wordswithwinter

  11. What a lovely tribute. It’s hard to lose someone so special, but you have shared some beautiful thoughts, and life lessons. Thanks for sharing at the #HomeMattersParty – we’re looking forward to what you have to share next week. 🙂

    Life With Lorelai

    1. Thanks, Lorelai for the sweet words. We know life is fleeting but we need reminded every once in a while. I enjoyed the #HomeMattersParty and will be back. Blessings.

  12. I too lost a dear cousin I grew up with and it was painful. She had cancer, and it was painful to watch her get sicker and sicker. My cousins have always been important in my life. I even wrote a blog post about cousins. Our days are precious, we need to use them well.

    1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Michele. My cousin seemly went so fast. We were not even aware that she was sick until a few weeks before so I can’t even imagine watching your cousin suffer. It must have been heart breaking. It does teach us that life is precious and to make the best of each day. Thanks for stopping by and may you be comforted in your sorrow. Blessings.

    1. Thanks, Jerusha for your condolences. Life teaches us some hard/great lessons. I appreciate you stopping by. Blessings. PS- love your web site. You have some awesome food there !!!

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