I’m posting my Father’s Day message early as we are going to be on vacation the month of June. I didn’t want to miss giving honor to all the Godly fathers out there who work so hard for their families. May your Father’s Day be rich in love.
As Father’s day draws near my thoughts go to my dad. What wonderful times we had !!!! He was caring, patient, and kind. Time or space will not permit me to share the great times we had but the memories are poignant and sweet. I never had a time that I didn’t feel his love and care. He has been gone for several years and I miss him often.
But in researching for this post I was socked to find that 1 in 3 children in the US live without their father !!!! (Daily Mail – May 28, 2015) There are 24 million children in American living in homes where the biological father is absent. (Wade F. Horn and Tom Sylvester, Father Facts, Fourth Editorion (Gaithersburn, Md.: National Fatherhood Initiative, 2002), p. 15.) These statistics leave me heart-broken. It will be a matter of prayer for me in the days ahead but in today’s post I want to focus on the dads that are trying to do a good job in the midst of working, home maintenance jobs, paying bills, church duties, their role as a husband and head of the house and all the responsibility that includes.
God has a lot to say about the role of a father. I want to share just a few verses that stand out to me today as I write.
His sons used to go and hold a feast in the house of each one on his day, and they would send and invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them. When the days of feasting had completed their cycle, Job would send and consecrate them, rising up early in the morning and offering burnt offerings according to the number of them all; for Job said, “Perhaps my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.” Thus Job did continually. – Job 1: 4&5
What a wonderful father Job was, always concerned about how his children lived before God. We also learn what compassion a father has for his children from the writings of David.
Psalms 103: 13 Just as a father has compassion on his children, So the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.
Godly fathers are of high value and should be encouraged in every way. Here are some ideas to let your husband, and dad to those precious kids, know how much he means to the family.
- Affirm your husband’s role in the family – Tell your children the things you love about their dad, and point out the great things he does for them and for your family. You’re helping nurture and encourage a relationship, between their dad and them, that’s very important. One of the most important things you can do is to honor your husband’s masculinity by showing him your respect—especially in front of your children.
- Be his biggest cheerleader, not his trainer – It’s easy sometimes to include our husbands with our kids, handing out orders to them when they get home from work, and telling them what we need from them, instead of asking for their help. Dads may sometimes admit more readily they’re not sure what their kids need from them, but they still want time to figure it out. Compliment him when you notice him being a great dad, and be more willing to edit or hold your words when you’re tempted to point out what he’s not doing right.