I believe God puts people together but marriage is serious business. My husband, Tom, and I have been married for almost 5 years. Now that doesn’t seem like a very long time but marriages have been ruined in less. Tom was a widower of about 2 years but I had been alone for many, many (16 to be exact) years and was a little (ahhh maybe more than a little !!!!!) set in my ways. I was used to doing things for myself and making all the decisions. This could have spelled disaster but we (oops, I mean me !!!) are working on this.
No one, that I know of, starts out wanting to ruin their marriage. But if the relationship
survives past the first few years, after the endorphins have subsided, couples will have to work hard and lean on God to sustain a wonderful union of two separate and very different people. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the fulfilling side of being married to the love of your life !!!
Today I want to talk about some serious but subtle marriage killers……………….
To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified. Isaiah 61:3 (KJV)
There was a time in my life when getting up out of bed was hard. I just wanted to stay in bed and pull the covers up over my head. I felt fatigued, despite a good night’s sleep. A cloak of unhappiness seemed to cover me and shrouded me from head to toe. My feet felt like they were wearing lead shoes and every step was a struggle. My thoughts were centered on only negativity. Thoughts drifted through my mind –
This unhappy time will never end. Why did this happen to me? How can I go on? My personal world was in chaos and I felt downcast and overwhelmed.
The spirit of heaviness is like a chain binding us, but the spirit of praise breaks the chain and sets the spirit free. We all know something of the spirit of heaviness and how it distresses us. It is those who feel this burden of spirit, yet trust in the Lord, that are promised deliverance from it by putting on the garment of praise. In this suggestion from the Lord of an antidote for the spirit of heaviness, he reveals the power of praise.
I’ve been doing some very interesting study this week. As I was planning some meals for Tom and I, the thought came to my mind – what did folks like Mary and Martha eat back in the Bible days? What kinds of food did the typical diet consist of and what would have been served at a family get together or celebration, such as when Jesus came to visit?
Some intriguing facts can be found on this subject. First of all most of the foods were eaten fresh and in season. Of course there was no refrigeration in those days so meals had to be prepared and eaten from the supply on hand. Instead of planning meals and making a grocery list, as I was doing, most of the food came from the householder’s own field, vineyard and vegetable garden.